Dating is never easy. No matter if you are a teenager, young adult, or into your adulthood. However, dating again after a break-up or a divorce can feel like an impossible challenge.
Is it too soon?
Will I just get hurt again?
What if my new date and I don’t mesh well?
If you are new to the dating scene again, you may be feeling really nervous about this process. Especially if it has been a long while since you last were mingling out there.
The good news is, you don’t have to let your jitters completely take over. Here are three tips to ease the jitters you may be feeling right now.
Regardless of the details of why your last relationship or the marriage ended, you don’t have to rush into anything new. You can just casually meet up with someone new and get to know them. Dating should never be a race but viewed as an opportunity to find someone you are most compatible with.
If you aren’t ready to make any serious type of commitment right away, don’t feel pressured into feeling like you need to.
If you only go on one date a month, don’t worry about trying to fit more dates in. We are all busy adults with other obligations. Even if you are eager to start dating again, you might feel better about the whole process if things go at a slower pace.
You likely remember how it felt when you first started dating people as a teenager or young adult. It can feel very unnerving to be faced with the task of getting to know someone. In your mind, you might question over and over again if they are having a good time on your date too. You might wonder at times if you even have anything in common with this other person.
Sometimes, we just don’t mesh well with other human beings. That can be expected – although it is frustrating when you thought something could be there.
If you had a bad date, don’t feel too defeated over this. It happens much more often than we are led to believe. The movies and television shows make it seem as if every date you go on is going to result in an undeniable chemistry connection between two people.
That would be fantastic if it did, but unfortunately, that just isn’t always the case.
Once you get on the scene of dating again, it can be exhilarating. The prospect of going out with new people and finding things in common with them is tantalizing. However, don’t forget about the other areas of your life that are important too.
Still plan on getting together with your friends and do activities that have nothing to do with dating or romance. Spend time with your family that you haven’t seen in awhile or don’t get to too often.
Learn a new hobby or pick up an old favorite activity that you haven’t devoted a lot of time to.
Regardless of what brings you to the world of dating, you should know that it is all about the journey. It isn’t a race to get settled down with someone again right away. It isn’t even really about the dating process, either. Instead, life is nothing but a powerful journey who’s experiences shape us into who we are.
If you are feeling nervous about dating, it’s understandable. However, there are even more ways to help you through this process. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us to learn more about relationship counseling and how it can help you build yourself up for a better experience.
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