Life can get busy and overwhelming. We all seem to be rushing around to get from A to B to C. Living in a society that values never slowing down and always succeeding is challenging. These standards shouldn’t be applied to dating for many reasons, but unfortunately, it does.
How often do you begin dating someone new, only to wonder, “What’s next?” To wish for a magic wand to just get through this process and see if it is worth pursuing? It would be nice to if something like this existed, but unfortunately, it doesn’t.
Living a busy schedule filled with work, family, and social obligations is something that most people struggle with. But learning how to balance this is not only important for your mental health but for your overall balance of life.
When you are in the dating game, knowing how to fit it into your busy schedule can feel just as overwhelming as the dating process. But know that dating does take time and it is actually really manageable with virtually any schedule. Here’s a few tips on how to fit it in.
Fitting Dating Into Your Busy Schedule
1. Set Aside The Time
This may be kind of a, “Well, duh!” tip, but it is actually something a lot of people struggle with in dating. Learning how and when to make the time for it can help ease the anxieties that dating causes.
You likely have a schedule going on of things you need to do for work, household responsibilities, etc. Sometimes, adding it to your schedule means literally scheduling it. If you are dating one person in particular, or going on multiple dates, carve out one time a week to meet up with someone. Simple and kind of self explanatory? Sure, but we find that when you are scheduling things in your life, getting them done is actually easier.
2. Don’t Rush The Process
Dating someone new can be so much fun. And nerve-wracking. You want it to all go well, but the uncertainty of the future of this new prospect is often a source of anxiety in dating. You want to just skip to the ending so you know you aren’t wasting one another’s time.
However, trusting in the process of dating means understanding that it is going to take time. Time to get to know one another. Time to see where it goes.
3. Don’t Put Pressure On Yourself
Society puts so much pressure on the people who are in the dating game. Especially for those of us who are adults – there’s so many mixed signals. “Don’t rush into anything!” “Why aren’t you settled down yet?” “When are you getting married? What about kids?”
The noise needs to stop because it just ends up putting an unnecessary amount of pressure on yourself. Don’t let this noise make you feel as if you are behind schedule or not doing something right because let’s face it…
4. Only You Are On Your Own Timeline
Dating takes time. Getting to know someone and learning how you two mesh together shouldn’t be rushed. Your timeline and life is your own – not anyone else’s. It’s easier said than done, but sometimes, fitting dating into your life is just that – fitting it in your life, the way you see best.
Relationship Counseling Can Help
When you are single and trying to mingle, it’s important to make sure that you are showing up for you, also. That means you are putting yourself first and not trying to be anything you aren’t. This can often be the catalyst to a successful and healthy relationship.
Relationship counseling can help you learn how to make sure that you are working on yourself and practicing self-care. If you are struggling with dating issues and balancing it in your life, let’s connect soon so we can show you a path forward.
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